How to Meet Your True Soul Mate

It is recommended that you dwell a bit on the sort of partner you'd like to have going forward, and for the rest of your life. Being clear on what kind of person you're looking for, as well as visualizing that ideal--putting it out into the ethers, so to speak--is a sure way of attracting your true soul mate.

You Need a Mission Statement

We were created to be loved and supported and to give love and support in return. But our differing natures ensure that we have unique needs and wants.

To help you formulate your own preferences, prepare a mission statement. Your mission statement might go something like this: “To find a man (or woman) who will complement me, and whom I will complement. When I do this I will marry and have a family.”

Now list the qualities you are looking for, and from which you will not deviate. For example: “My future husband (or wife) will be loving and demonstrative and organized. He (or she) will cherish the idea of a family, and will be financially stable.”

Or your mission statement might go like this: “To find someone with whom every day will be fun and challenging. This person will be my best friend, although we will not eclipse each other's platonic friends, ambitions or activates.” Then list the specific qualities that matter to you.

Or, if your needs are fairly simplistic, you might try something like this: “To marry a man (or woman) who listens attentively, makes me laugh; is wise; loves small dogs; worships God, and will never complain when I ask him (or her) to drive me someplace.”

Now type your mission statement up, using a large, bright size font and print it out. Place your statement in a prominent place, like over your bed or on your refrigerator door.

Stop Sabotaging Yourself

In addition to mentally imprinting your needs and wants in this manner, you must get out of your own way. You must stop sabotaging your goal. (We all do this, up to a point.) Cease doing whatever is proving non-productive.

Do you intentionally over eat, so that, at sixty pounds overweight, you'll be rejected for your appearance, and no one will have a chance to get close enough to hurt you again? (That's a bit deep, but there are plenty of people who do hide behind their weight.)

Or do you wear slovenly clothes and walk around with uncombed hair while running errands on weekends, when you most stand the chance of running into other singles?

If you are too myopic to see what you're doing wrong, ask your most trusted pal to clue you in.

Meet Your Needs First

You must take care of yourself. This is not a short-term activity. You will be responsible for you for the rest of your life. You need to meet your needs first, and these include allowing yourself to heal properly from the wounds of an old relationship.

There is no set time to grieve a relationship that went wrong, but don't be in a rush to jump into another relationship without sorting everything out, first, in your mind. Being on the rebound too quickly will not only prove counter-productive, but will also exude an air of desperation which will ward off dates with true soul mate potential.

If you follow these steps, you'll encounter success in your search for your other half, someone who brings out the best in you--and vice-versa.

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