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Keeping the financial cost of divorce down

By Susan M. Keenan ©2006

Along with the many changes that divorce brings to your life comes a change in your financial status- for both parties involved. Many couples will go from a two income family to a single income individual. Other couples will go from a single income family with a stay at home parent to a single income individual and an individual in need of a job.

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Either way, the financial change is a large one. Money is going to be tighter now than ever before because two separate households with two separate sets of expenses are going to put an extra strain on the resources.

One of the initial steps that you can take is to attempt to control the sometimes exorbitant costs of divorce. This is not an easy task, yet it is possible with a bit of forethought and planning. Follow as many of these handy tips as closely as you can. Some of the savings that you realize will be hefty and some will be minimal. All of the savings added together will make quite a difference on the financial outlook of your new lifestyle.

Guidelines for Control of the financial costs of Divorce:

  • Avoid a contested divorce if possible. Less money spent all the way around with reduced costs for lawyers, paperwork, and court fees.
  • Share a lawyer with your soon to be ex. If you are both agreeable, sharing a lawyer is the best possible way to save money. Simply work out the details ahead of time and meet with the lawyer separately.
  • Hire a lawyer that has been recommended by someone you know for being fair and reasonable with his or her expenses. However, also be sure that the lawyer knows what he or she is doing.
  • Since it doesn’t hurt to ask, ask for a discounted fee if assets are nonexistent. Some lawyers allow for a few cases at reduced rates.
  • Prioritize your expectations. It is unlikely that you will be able to get everything that you want, so have a list of priorities and concentrate on the most important ones.
  • Be willing to make compromises based on your priorities. Concede something of less importance to you for something of greater importance.
  • If issues exist that the two of you simply cannot resolve on your own, consider using a mediator or arbitrator to resolve them. The final cost is usually quite a bit less than court and lawyer fees.
  • Even though your lawyer may seem like your best friend, he is receiving an hourly salary in many cases. Keep your visits with your lawyer to a minimum. If you have already contracted for a set fee, then this really isn’t a financial issue for you. Make notes during your meetings. Have notes available for your meetings. This way everything is fresh and available.
  • Fire the lawyer if you aren’t happy with him or her. Divorce lasts a lifetime unlike many marriages, so you need to be satisfied with the results from the beginning.
  • Always review any bills that you receive pertaining to the divorce proceedings prior to paying for them. Determine that no accidental charges are billed more than once. Ask about any charges that you don’t understand.

    • Remember that the less time spent arguing over assets, child custody arrangements, pets, and other details equates to less fees and more financial resources for the two of you.

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