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Age range: 50 to 54
Sexual orientation: Straight
Marital status: Been dumped

Location: United States

amyjane joined on: 23 April 2010
Last logged in: 28 April 2010 at 15:08

amyjane has been recommended 2 times.

I am 50, but look and act 30. I met a beautiful man in Venice and it was intense from the get-go. I've never had such sexual chemistry like that with anyone. But to him, it was a booty call. He's Egyptian--we had cultural and language differences and he's young. He's also incredibly self-centered, spoiled, controlling, and I often didn't feel respected as a woman. I felt he was using me for sex, but the sex was incredible, and it was a vacation fling, so I figured what the hell. But everything was on his terms--he would only respond to texts when HE wanted to come over. He would stay for an hour and leave--a booty call. My last night he promised to come see me, and blew me off. I left him a bunch of blistering voicemails about how he had hurt me. I cried on the plane for 15 minutes, then left it all behind me in Venice. That's the first time he broke my heart--and that was a mild case. I was over him in a few days because it's the nature of relationships in Venice.

I thought I would never see or hear from him again but 2 weeks later, he Facebooked me. I was shocked to hear from him. He had moved to Amsterdam. We started up again but had to do everything online via Skype or FB. But this time was different. He never sweet talked me before and he was much more attentive and consistent. He was online with me every day, sometimes five -six times a day. Again, it was all sexual. We really have nothing to talk about--we just have this amazing sexual chemistry. So we sexted each other and had Skype sex. He told me I was his only girl, he liked me a lot, he got jealous when I was with someone else---VERY different from Venice. Now he was acting like more like a boyfriend. He invited me to come stay with him in Amsterdam. And although it was still all about him using me for sex, I felt he had more feelings for me this time. He would spend all kinds of time with me, late into the night, so I figured he wasn't sleeping with anyone else. Well, the other day, I noticed he had a ring. He confessed he might be engaged soon--but here he was, fooling around with me. He says he wants to have a baby. Very Arabic attitude--marry a woman to have a baby.. I do'nt know if she's an Egyptian, but if she is he's probably not getting sex, since premarital sex is outlawed in his community, thus he's still chasing me. I reamed him out but good for telling me all these lies. We fought. I told him he broke my heart. He said I broke his too. We had a few more back and forths and I sent him a message saying "Arrivaderci" and he immediately defriended me on Facebook. I was a mess. It was such a cold thing to do--with no warning. I figured he didn't want his new girlfriend (because I think it is new) seeing me on his homepage. I figured I'd never hear from him again. You can still write messages in FB on his search page, so I sent him a message saying goodbye. He Skyped me today, but I was in the shower and didn't actually talk to him. I texted him back, said I was sorry--this all really hurt me and I wish I was the one to give him a baby, but I don't think I can. He just said, "Okay"--and then devastated me by blocking me on Skype. So he wants NO CONTACT whatsoever with me. I did send him one more message on FB saying a final goodbye--very gracious. What I don't get is why he called me on Skype if he was just going to block me anyway. Maybe to say goodbye. That's the only savings grace--that he did call It makes it a little less cold. He's spoiled, immature, controlling, jealous, dishonest, just out for sex--not a good person. But he's beautiful and we have this sexual thing. And this whole acting like I was his girlfriend--really sucked me in. I know I'll get over it, but I couldn't stop crying today. It was the way he did it--blocking me like that. He essentially deleted me from his life. There's nothing worse than a digital dump! We have nothing in common. Cultural and age differences. I would never be accepted into his family. I don't want a baby. And he's a user and a cad. But...it still hurts like hell.I live for passion--and I feel I'll never find passion like that again. I dont date much in the US. And it was unique and emotional--the passion we had. And I feel like he definitely wasn't faking the attraction. But he's incredibly self-centered and insensitive. I know logically that this guy is not for me but I haven't slept for two days and I'm just a mess.