"We Have To Talk"

By The Seed

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Perhaps the four most feared words in the English language.

These four one-syllable words can strike fear into every (wo)man on the planet. Sending them ducking for cover. When these words find their way into a relationship, (wo)men will desperately try to avoid the unavoidable conversation.

The one that starts with: "You're still away insert your name here."

Sorry, wrong article, I must be drunk, only moderately drunk though, remember everything in moderation. That is one of the keys to life. Disregard the last four words. The four words I am talking about are:

"WE HAVE TO TALK."

If your Sweetie ever utters these words there are two possible things that will follow. You are going to be asked to change or even worse, you are about to be "DUMPED."

You are going to be told that in some way you are not living up to expectations.

The problem is: your gal/guy knew what they were getting when they decided that they wanted you in their life. You have now likely become a project, which is based upon what they see you becoming. Not who you are. These words may be a sign that your relationship is in trouble.

Sure, maybe we do need to change some things. However, change on your own schedule and terms. If you give in to these demands, you may as well give up your backbone for safekeeping till the day you get dumped. Because you are now officially spineless and eventually, even though your sweetie may enjoy you caving in to every demand, in reality, in the end she wants you to stand up for yourself.

My advice is simple: if you ever hear these words, you likely have one course of action:

"DUMP FIRST."

It may be hard, but you will thank me later.

It must be clearly stated that if you’re married with children* the stakes are different and dumping is not the correct first course of action. In fact, unless you have some hardcore behavioral problems, are abusive or a drunk, you too must stand your ground.

Life is full of tests. It is ok to be thoughtful, when it doesn‘t detract too much from your life, but c’mon, have a backbone. It is okay to say: "NO." Your love interest will bore of you if you don’t stand up for yourself from time-to-time. Trust me on this. Nobody wants to date a pushover.

"NO" -- will make you more attractive and desirable.

Hopefully, your relationship has evolved and it is "True Love". If it has, you can disregard everything above. You can stop playing the "DATING GAMES".

Because frankly: THEY’RE ANNOYING.

*When children are involved always think of the children first. Don‘t be selfish.

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